Lesson 3

3. BEING A FEMME FATALE

A sugar babe strives to be the perfect companion for her man, but *she* controls much of the arrangement in subtle ways.

She can do this because she knows two things about men:
- her man will work hardest to please her, to satisfy her desires, if he feels that he is in danger of losing the pleasures she is giving him.

- men, even confident men, have fragile egos. If she can figure out what a man wants to be admired for – it might be his looks, his power, his brains - she’ll know how to act as his biggest fan and supporter when it serves her purposes. She’ll also know how to chip away at his ego, because there will be times when that serves her purposes too.

A Femme Fatale never lets emotion cloud her objectives. Even as she’s having fun hanging out with her sugar daddy, she never lets herself think that she’s been given enough: she always expects more. Here are the Femme Fatale’s answers to #4 and #5:

4. Remember that she doesn’t always view the things her sugar daddy is giving as gifts. She feels that she is entitled to them: they’re hers even before he gives them to her. So she could also do one of two things: she might say nothing at all about that envelope, as if he’d just returned a lighter or cell phone he’d borrowed from her a moment ago. Or if she thinks he has not given enough, she presses him for more, maybe by raising her eyebrow and saying “is that really the best you can do, daddy?”

5. The Femme Fatale would flirt with the other guy - glances, smiles... perhaps she’d even turn her body toward him, flip her hair, I’m sure you know all the little body language signs. All of this is a show she puts on for her sugar daddy: it shows him that she is desirable and he must *work* to keep her attention. Never let your sugar daddy forget that.

To truly become a Femme Fatale you have to let your self centered side in charge. It’s kind of like learning to say “I want this,” I can tell that being manipulative and selfish won’t come naturally to you at first. But you must trust me: many guys find demanding, hard-to-please women irresistible. So we have to practice!

Essay question format for this homework.

1) We’re out shopping. You’ve just tried on a dress, and we both agree that it looks fantastic on you. As you’re in the dressing room taking it off, you look at the price tag for the first time and notice that it costs half a month’s rent. What do you do when you come out of the dressing room?

2) I’ve just given you an envelope, and while I’m in the bathroom you count the money and see that it contains $250. But you need $400 to have enough left over after paying your phone bill so that you can go out with your friends. You ask for more when I get back to the table, but I only have $40 in my wallet. What do you do?

3) We’re out to dinner, and you notice that I’m checking out the attractive waitress who is serving us. After I call her over to refill your water and keep her at the table for three minutes making jokes and small talk, you decide to do something. What do you do to turn the situation to your advantage?