Lesson 4

LESSON 4. THE EVOLUTION OF A SD/SB AFFAIR, and SEX

A SD/SB relationship is constantly evolving, just like any other relationship. It goes through stages, and the transition from one stage to the next is marked by certain milestones.

DEVELOPING: Our first few outings will be about trust building. During this stage it will be very natural for the new SB to assume a submissive role and defer to her daddy in all decisions. She's experimenting with placing herself in his hands; if anything, over the first few dates she will become MORE submissive and even less assertive, as she experiments with how deeply she can trust him. The daddy will know that a firm guiding hand and early establishment of a steady flow of gifts and support are both needed. If the match is good, she will begin to develop a powerful admiration for her daddy and affection for the feeling of security he provides. During this stage it is difficult/rare for the SB to play the part of the Femme Fatale.

MATURING: Although physical encounters may happen earlier, the biggest threshold to the maturing stage is the beginning of an ongoing sexual relationship. The transition can be difficult if the SB has assumed such a submissive role as to seem childlike to her SD, sterilizing and ending the relationship. To avoid this the SD will prepare the SB by pushing for little pre-sexual milestones as the affair develops. His SB must expect that these may sometimes be just beyond her comfort zone at the time, but that's part of the growth process. The SB should feel that the slip toward sex is gradual but inevitable, like a fall from grace.

In a 'normal' relationship, once regular sex begins the power balance almost always tilts toward the man. For a SB and SD, it is the opposite. A girl will be empowered by the feeling of balance that enters into what may previously have felt like an unequal relationship. It is at this stage that the emboldened and maturing SB may begin to regularly ask for things ("I want,") beyond simply accepting with gratitude what her SD gives. She will explore and test the limits of her power; the assertive Femme Fatale begins to emerge occasionally, although she is not a universal presence as the SB continues to enjoy the comfortable earlier dynamic of submission.

DADDY'S GIRL: This is the full, beautiful fruition of "daddy's spoiled little girl." Although the mature, empowered SB may continue to enjoy submitting to her SD's wishes, her submission becomes part of a delightful game, just as does her Femme Fatale side. Her daddy, hopelessly smitten with her, can be assertive and stern, but he also melts before his babe's subtle manipulations, when she chooses to apply them. Daddy's girl feels safe and secure and well looked after in his hands; she looks up to him, respects his accomplishments, revels in the feeling of being treasured. Daddy's generosity continues, but she freely asks for things she wants, becase she knows daddy will not let her down.

This time, the test is in short answer format. The questions are meant to help me learn your attitude toward sex. Knowing these things will help me steer the right path between pushing too quickly and the "childish" dead end.

1) Who’s your favorite female actress?
2) How many men have you slept with?
3) Have you ever had a one night stand? Have you had more than one?
4) Are you dominant or submissive in bed?
5) Have you ever faked an orgasm?
6) Should a sugar babe fake an orgasm?
7) On a scale of 1 (you’re an angel) to 10 (the baddest girl you know is ... YOU), where would you put yourself right now?
8) On that same scale, where do you WANT to be?
9) Have you ever had any of the following: charity sex, sex that you've been told about but can't remember, sex with multiple partners, sex out of boredom with someone you weren't that attracted to?